*SeriOus* some thoughts on Marriage

My laziness has always been fighting over the desire to pen down a post like this, too many of you have been disagreed with me on this diff thought of mine. It's not my purpose to change your view, we are all entitled to differ. But I always wanted to clarify certain misinterpretion u guys have on my view towards MARRIAGE.

Let me start with my stand on marriage in your perception--someone anti-marriage, holding negative thoughts about marriage, having no confidence towards marriage, and hating the formality of marriage?
BIG NO!! WRONG WRONG!!

I might be d one who put 'marriage' in a more sacred status than anyone of you do. No girl has no fantasy about having an ideal and perfect rship and thereto, a marriage life. Yes i do dream about that all the time, someone who truly loves me with his soul, cares about me as much as he does before & after getting into married, a dramatic proposal, a romantic wedding in somewhr like skopelos, having a little kitchen where we can cook 2gether, a cosy sofa where we cuddled in front of the TV, holiday in our dream destination twice a year, lovely kids that we can kiss goodnite everday etc....tell me, who dont? I will not let anything to get into my way, for me, its as simple as this, either i live a married life like this, or I will just being single ( as in not married, not 2 say i can live without a rship though. Girls always need the radiance of lOvE, thats the secret of staying young.hahaha...)

The reason that I used to say I am not adamantly wanting a marriage is not that I don care whether having one or not, it is my perversely insistence of having a perfect one. If I am not fully prepared for one or couldnt find one, I will not rashly get into a marriage. You would say 'who doesnt know about this theory?' yup, but i can say most of the ppl blindly get into an improper marriage just because they wanted to get married so much, thinking without one, their life won't be perfect. I agree with the qualification that without a good marriage, life isnt perfect, a pathetic marriage ( which is so common around you ) won't perfectionate your life but wil only makes it miserable at the same time ruining the wonderful anticipation that we devoted to the concept of 'marriage' , creating more failed examples to the masterpiece on earth--the unification of a man and a woman as a perfect whole.
Marriage, for these ppl would be reduced into a mere piece of paper with strings of problems resulting from the legal bond. To try out a guy and then only tear off faces in court, hurting the kids and family v love, arguing over the amount of maintenance, risking the prospect of our respective career in case it fails? NO WAY. if you want to try, try with a rship without this kinda consequences..a rship without the legality.

I just wan't to make sure before i decide to get into the( not 'a' ) marriage one day, I am prepared physically, mentally and financially to take on the responsibility and obligation attached, thought over the sacrifices and enormous effort that needed to be paid and happily willing to take it. The right person, right timing, right maturity, right circumstances, right preparation-- until i have found all these combination at any stage of my life~~> no marriage, i allow no smudge in my marriage if there is ever going to be one.

OpiniOn Please??

Should I perm my hair like this?

Im sick of my current hairstyle, bt at the same time im worried tat curly hairs will make me look like aunty..

btw, this was taken when i put down my hairs after coiling into a bun for few hours, i din't do anything on it. i am thinking mayb i shd do sth like this.....should i?look old?

btw, strangely enough, after so long nvr been to 1-U, all i bought was accessories...

Fila mini duffle bag which is of my favourite navy blue colour.RM41.70 after 70% discount.haha...i have new college bag!!!

a RM39.90 watch from NOSE

I have been considering for 2 weeks...though its cheap, the reason has been my old casio watch tat has accompanied me for 8 yrs. I know it will be dumped aside then..T.T sad for it...

ahha...and another RM10 for 1 pair of earing,1 anklet, 1 necklace.dirt cheap ya?

Random = rawak

Today someone said 'i tot u hav ady 4gotten the existence of ur blog. hangat hangat tahi ayam!'

'.........'

ok, after class, i realy hav nth2 do, so decided2 clear up d photos in my camera, found some random family & frens' photos, which i think shd upload here.

coz, i suddenly miss my family so much when i started2 browse thru d pic......

cool LOTUS in genting highlands, parked outside resort hotel.

taken in RAKUZEN- i was actually testing my camera. T.T great but expensive meal

hahaha..a photo im proud of!!

venue : mr.karpal singh's house in penang.

date : 7/3/2008 ( a day b4 the general election 2008 which i was an assistant )

kuan kuan's ( my youngest cousin ) 1st bday, dad looks lik more enjoying d cake than the person he is feeding.haha..


one acts lik 歌神 ,one 扮cute---match ma....

miss d redbox days wif u guys

me n kuan kuan during cny, he is so 有型on his motorbike

whr were v?....hmm.....i think a hotel in shah alam kua...

During house warming--a happy day for me

New Room for jingen...i know it's simple, but im grateful enough

grandpa, grandma, dad and a stupid-looked brother

dad's XX bday.look at his cute face when blowing d candle. he actually begged us2 buy him the cake bcoz he loves cakes..wahahaha...d best pandan layer cake i hav ever eaten

COnvO 2008-Ball n After Party

Needless to say anything else on the convo, it was truly amazing n fun!!!

Here are some photos to share, all from others' camera,hahaha...will be uploading again when I have collected more photos including those from my own camera.

Due to the rushing, missed out precious oppurtunities2 take photos with some ppl that I wanted to, haiz,tats d only imperfect thing ( including d old frens tat couldnt make it, ya, talking bout u!! bastard! )

Schedule of the day in brief :

7.50am-KM woke me up for bfast

9.20am-reached convention centre for rehearsal ( late due to zero parking space )

10.10am-rehearsal finished ( it was jz a briefing, most of the time was used2 queue up 130 excited graduates, haha.. )collected robe

11.00am-brunch at klcc food court wif willis, Km, Fj, yh n alvin

12.30pm-reached willis' hotel. no room for us yet, so had to squeeze into his parents room. they went out for lunch so tat v could rest i think,so paiseh...

2pm-woke up from nap, started preparing (no electricity plug in d room, fj fainted--she couldnt perm her hairs)

4pm-Km reached d hotel n picked us up

4.40pm-reached convention centre (extremely late again, i had received numerous calls tat lecturers ady called my name few times. promised waiwin2 reach earlier for photographing, shit..)

5.45pm-after all the kelam kabut( ran upstairs2 wear the robe and board, looked for safety pins, contacting dad, aunty and cousins),finally i sat down in my place,relieved........coz all of my "honoured guests" had reached in time

6pm- ceremony started...i had counted, around 10ppl almost fell on d stage, 1 seriously fell into the VVIP's plc.Y not they jz lay a red carpet thr, such a slippery stage esp for those wearing high heels..I went up the stage for 4 times somemore, increased chances of me falling down, luckily all safe n sound!!

8pm- ball started wif VVIP and graduates walking on red carpet ( now they put it ), took our graduate photo.

10.30pm--dad, mom n yi left to uncle's house, hahahaha...i nvr tot tat i would hav a chance2 cabut wif frens to the after party!!

11.50pm- reached Sky Bar, but was informed tat it's gonna closed at 12.30pm

12.15am--reached quattro, here's the parteh!!!!!20ppl partying lik crazy

2.30am-left quattro reluctantly, had great fun thr! ( cheng cheng scolded me for leaving too early wor,im alwaz a passenger in car, wat2do...:( )

wooo...men in black!! leng chai la leng chai la...





wif gillian n fj

wif Cat n fj (luckily manage 2 catch a photo wif both of them,thx for all the way here :))

Gorgeous?haha...this cheng cheng ar, so sharp, taken d spotlight.:P

a shot just b4 d ceremony started

Gandhi~~~

Geri and her DIY dress

me and some closer Second Uppers :P

Left2right : KM. Alvin, Waiwin, me, Eddie, Willis

Left2right: Kristyle, Cheng cheng, me, Chloe, ms meera, leelin, Fj


Our popular Mr Amerjit

Left2 right: KW, Yvonne,cheng cheng, amerjit, Fj,waiwin, Al, me


Dang dang....FJ n waiyee

in Quattro

Left2right; me, Yvonne,janice and cheng cheng

Drunken CHOI WAI WIN!!hahah....

Wat a Shame

It was CRAZY! The so called authorities which are supposed to keep the peace and safety of the country, has nothing else to do besides polishing their shoes, ironing their uniforms and hitting people gathering peacefully singing national anthem?Let me tell u wat happened, and u figure urself whether this shd be the way to safeguard the country.

The vigil against ISA supposed to be at amcorp mall, but when we arrived v were told tat police had dispersed the people and now the crowd had moving towards civic centre. It was around 100 over people, this time it was another agenda, to commemorate the anniversary of BERSIH. The leader of BERSIH gave a short speech, regarding the memorandum submitted that has not been fulfilled yet, namely to re-check strictly the electoral roll, the do away with the postal votes, the re-holding of the local government election etc. He then passed the memo again to Ronnie Liew, the exco of selangor state assembly. Ronnie then informed the crowd about the progress of the state govt effort to push the local govt election and anti-ISA motion in Parliament. Another Malay guy ( don remember who is tat ) then gav a brief speech, RPK arrived and was urged2 gv his speech then. The whole process lasted about only 15 mins, then we sang the national anthem intended to close up the event.

The police and FRU were ready at the side all this time while the OCPD or whoever shouting some instruction which we couldnt understand. Out of a sudden when were were singing the anthem, the FRU rushed in the crowd. Me, Lina and Kelly ran off to the side when they started to approach.I heard the sound of beating sth, i turned back and saw they were beating up the shield, and the line divided into two so to 'embrace' those in the middle. We ran to the car and jz realised tat Kelly' car keys, wallet and hp were wif Shah while we lost him. Barash saw us and suggested that we all followed his car bac to the 'old place' to wait for the rest.

Jennifer helped us to make a call to Gush to get Shah's number but Gush told us that he has been arrested. When we arrived at the place, bloggers keep coming back and finally Shah. The info gathered was, there were 24 ppl being caught, including Tony Phua and Ronnie( who din ran but intended to talk to the police that we were doing nth and gonna dispersed, obviously they were not prepared to talk at all but were instucted to arrest ), a priest, an elderly couple ( the wife tried to stop the police from pulling her husband forcefully, but the FRU pushed her onto the floor causing her head to hit on the flower pots, they arrested her as well then ), young students who joined the vigil for the 1st time ( which part do these ppl look like a terrorist? ) and the most irritating part is, ppl at the side nearer to the FRU heard tat they targeted Indians wearing yellow shirts. Y? to justify their arrest, bcoz they can say tat they were trying to catch HINDRAF fellows ( which is an illegal group now ) who illegally assembled. ( we do not know those Indians r realy HINDRAF ppl o not, but its for sure tat tonite event has nth2 do wif them )

we actualy tot tat RPK is their main target since it would be a right excuse to get him bac to the jail after his release on habeas corpus. But his call informing tat he is ok gv us big relief. PR leaders all rushing to the PJ police station to catch up wif the incident and so do lawyers to offer bailing help. there were about 80 ppl gathering outside the police station, and u know wat the police did?
THEY FIRED TEAR GAS!!

these kinda treatment shd be applied on aggressive ressistant,terroristor communists who trying to threaten the public safety, but definitely not ppl like us who were gathering peacefully to submit memorandum and reminding the ppl in this country about the draconian ISA. U might think tat v might hav nth to do and too stupid to risk our liberty.

But all these while if it were not all these ppl who r willing2 come out and pushing lots of things behind, imagine how the country woould be? The ppl in power could do watever they wan bcoz no1 would say sth against. True they r stil doing sth out of whims and fancies, but there would b misgivings. If it were not bcoz of these fantastic bloggers, ppl stil being ignorant bout the true stories behind wats happenening in this country and there would be no 308.

Don ever think tat they are pro-PR, nope, they are jz Pro-whoever-tat-can-bring-forward-wat-they-are-fighting-for. an informed community, civilised govenment, basic human rights and the better future for the nextgeneration. most of the bloggers ady passed 2/3 of their life, half leg into the coffins, but they are stil dragging the old bodies coming out to fight for Malaysians, y??Vicky said sth nice--Looking at the face of the FRU, do they ever realize who they are catching n beating?some ppl trying 2 breach the peace of the country and making a whoo haa out of nth?they are catching n beating ppl who are fighting for the younger generation including their kids!!!!

Jz like this Dingo

feeling blue....why?no particular reason.

perhaps u can say, its PMS

i can feel tat my surrounding is turning into blue colour, a colour tat I used to love so much,

but now only i realize, the power of blue to lower ur blood sugar, slower ur heart beat, reduce ur willingness to move n talk, everything jz seems so dull....n lonely...

男孩和女孩

男孩，情路上跌跌撞撞，在他万念俱灰的时候，遇上了一个女孩。

女孩怀疑他的真心，怀疑自己是不是他心灵空虚时候的寄托而已。

男孩不介意，因为他相信，时间能证明一切。

他守候着，呵护着，全心全意地爱着她。

为女孩挡风遮雨，对女孩的时冷时热逆来顺受，自己的感受永远是其次。

终于有一天，女孩告诉男孩，只要你愿意为我再做一件事，我就不再怀疑你的真心--在至少十个人面前为我演唱。

男孩虽然害怕，但是并不是因为胆怯，而是怕自己表现不好而不被女孩接受。

朋友们当然鼎力支持，男孩也苦心排练，当他握着吉他望着她的脸。心理是紧张得纠结不已，双脚更是莫名的颤抖。他有好多好多话想对女孩说，有好多好多感受要让女孩知道：

Complicated Heart

Don't know what to say now

don't know where to start

I don't know how to handlea complicated heart

You tell me you are leaving

but I just have to say，before you throw it all away

Chorus:

Even if you want to go alone，

I will be waiting when you're coming home

if you need someone to ease the pain，you can lean on me,

my love will still remain

Don't know what you're thinking，to me it seems quite tough

to hold a conversation，when words are not enough

so this is your decision，and there's nothing I can do

I can only say to you

Chorus:

Even if you want to go alone，

I will be waiting when you're coming home

if you need someone to ease the pain，you can lean on me,

my love will still remain

女孩泪眼汪汪，脸上却尽是幸福的表情。终于，女孩冷漠的心融化了，男孩与女孩终于在一起。

衷心祝福

我突然懂了

舍弃，也是一种爱。。。
爱到最深处，并不是继续死守着对方，
千般万般不舍，我以为，我是坚持所爱。
也许，我从来不懂什么是为爱完全舍弃自己的利益和感受，
也许，我总是爱自己甚于他人。
如果我放手，他会恨死我，这一辈子也许都不会原谅我。。但是，
我却能为他铺好他直奔梦想的大路，也能解开他烦累的包袱，他现在的痛苦我知道，他的无助我知道。我不心疼吗？想到深爱的人会恨自己一辈子，我不痛心吗？
与其两个相爱的人无止境地煎熬对方，不如，让我做一次复心人。
这次，如果我终于放手，原因无他，只是因为我太爱他。。。

If i were to choose

if i were to choose, u better bang me....


choices...choices...choices...

do v really have the freedom of choice?


did u ever face a situation where u have no way to choose even if u have choices?



its not even a choice then, u have to choose but u can nvr choose, choosing or not, u r dead anyway!

I missed the vigil today!

I thought im a hardcore for this kinda things, but compared to them, I feel like a loser, an idler....how could I miss it today? laziness? while I have been going out for so many times recently, for various reason, i.e. yum cha yum cha yum cha ( have to stress to show the frequency) , pool, steamboat, drinking, pasar malam...how could i cant even move my butt to go for candle light vigil tonite? Serious Guilt

a heavy calories afternoon--while i lick my lips, i can still taste the choco..the indulgence...is killing me softly...luckily i din order the death on ice chocolate drinks, but the choc brownies plus choc mud cake plus strawberry cheese cake in delicious are enough to jam my brain cells from functioning for a moment, i felt like i was on the cloud, i can realise nth but the smooth texture of the brownies with the cracking of walnuts in btw.arhhh...the world is so so wonderful....founder of this masterpiece--knee-down~~~~thx to you i might not even able to wear my prom dress!!Serious Guilt

Skopelos

HEAT FROM MAMMA MIA

Skopelos is not only the largest island, but it is also the capital of the Sporades Island chain. Its charms are many and varied: firstly the /chora/ or main town of Skopelos, is considered by many to be one of the prettiest harbour side towns in the Greek islands. It is built amphitheatrically around a natural, perfect, simi-circular harbour. Dating back several centuries, it is protected by a preservation order, and so has managed to retain its old world charm.
Entering the harbour by sea reveals the striking Byzantine churches which crown the sheer cliffs protecting the town. It is well worth spending time to explore its labyrinthine maze of narrow, stepped streets to admire the mostly Venetian architecture. As you wander through the colourful, flower-filled backstreets of town, the houses are charming and beautifully kept and around nearly every bend is an enchanting little chapel. No matter how small these chapels may be, the interior of each one is exquisite and unique. The island is famous for its numerous churches, Skopelos Town has more than 120 churches; the island, over 360 churches, chapels and monasteries.

Agios Ioannis Church

P/S : im not a christian..if not this will sure be the plc im gonna hold my wedding ceremony..wahahah...so buddies, any1 who is christian or gonna marry one, pls....have ur wedding thr so tat i can attend...:P