My laziness has always been fighting over the desire to pen down a post like this, too many of you have been disagreed with me on this diff thought of mine. It's not my purpose to change your view, we are all entitled to differ. But I always wanted to clarify certain misinterpretion u guys have on my view towards MARRIAGE.
Let me start with my stand on marriage in your perception--someone anti-marriage, holding negative thoughts about marriage, having no confidence towards marriage, and hating the formality of marriage?
BIG NO!! WRONG WRONG!!
I might be d one who put 'marriage' in a more sacred status than anyone of you do. No girl has no fantasy about having an ideal and perfect rship and thereto, a marriage life. Yes i do dream about that all the time, someone who truly loves me with his soul, cares about me as much as he does before & after getting into married, a dramatic proposal, a romantic wedding in somewhr like skopelos, having a little kitchen where we can cook 2gether, a cosy sofa where we cuddled in front of the TV, holiday in our dream destination twice a year, lovely kids that we can kiss goodnite everday etc....tell me, who dont? I will not let anything to get into my way, for me, its as simple as this, either i live a married life like this, or I will just being single ( as in not married, not 2 say i can live without a rship though. Girls always need the radiance of lOvE, thats the secret of staying young.hahaha...)
The reason that I used to say I am not adamantly wanting a marriage is not that I don care whether having one or not, it is my perversely insistence of having a perfect one. If I am not fully prepared for one or couldnt find one, I will not rashly get into a marriage. You would say 'who doesnt know about this theory?' yup, but i can say most of the ppl blindly get into an improper marriage just because they wanted to get married so much, thinking without one, their life won't be perfect. I agree with the qualification that without a good marriage, life isnt perfect, a pathetic marriage ( which is so common around you ) won't perfectionate your life but wil only makes it miserable at the same time ruining the wonderful anticipation that we devoted to the concept of 'marriage' , creating more failed examples to the masterpiece on earth--the unification of a man and a woman as a perfect whole.
Marriage, for these ppl would be reduced into a mere piece of paper with strings of problems resulting from the legal bond. To try out a guy and then only tear off faces in court, hurting the kids and family v love, arguing over the amount of maintenance, risking the prospect of our respective career in case it fails? NO WAY. if you want to try, try with a rship without this kinda consequences..a rship without the legality.
I just wan't to make sure before i decide to get into the( not 'a' ) marriage one day, I am prepared physically, mentally and financially to take on the responsibility and obligation attached, thought over the sacrifices and enormous effort that needed to be paid and happily willing to take it. The right person, right timing, right maturity, right circumstances, right preparation-- until i have found all these combination at any stage of my life~~> no marriage, i allow no smudge in my marriage if there is ever going to be one.
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